Life is good. Exuberant. Celebratory. For four years you have waited for this moment and you are ready. Ready to celebrate. Ready to party. You think, "there is nothing can that can spoil my day". Instead of going to a party or hanging with friends at the beach, you find yourself preparing to go to a funeral.
How can this be happening? Why now? While part of you is lost in sorrow and grief without understanding, another part of you is angry. Angry because this was suppose to be a party - a celebration. You feel as though not only was someone you love taken from you, but your whole celebration - the moment - was taken.
You don't know how to feel, how to act, what to do, or even how to be. I hear your questions, I hear your anger, your joy, your sorrow. There are times in life when we experience more than a single breath of experience. We can feel the celebratory experience while still experiencing the loss.
I hear you, How? there are no experts in the field of human experience. We are all simply practicing. Practicing how to be, how to feel, and even how to breath. So I do not have a simple answer. What I can share is its okay. Its okay to celebrate. Its okay to cry. Its okay to be angry. Its okay to love and be loved. Its okay.
Every moment of your experience is the right experience. Don't place expectations upon your
experience. Allow yourself to feel how you feel, be how you are, and experience how you experience.
I am extraordinarily proud of each of you. Proud of your accomplishments. Proud of your journey. Excited to see where your path will take you. And I will be there to celebrate with you as you walk across the stage and take that diploma in your hand. Taking a deep breath in full of celebratory accomplishment. Focus simply on that moment as you stand there.
And I will be there when you cross the threshold to a funeral. To be there to experience with you the grief and tears. Taking a deep breath in full of love, being loved, and saying goodbye to a love. Focus simply on that moment as you stand there.
Yes there are a multitude of lessons here. Yes there are a multitude of words you do not want to hear at the moment that will be shared with you. Yes there are moments you will feel as though it isn't fair. In the end they are all simply moments. Moments for you to experience how you will experience them.
How can this be happening? Why now? While part of you is lost in sorrow and grief without understanding, another part of you is angry. Angry because this was suppose to be a party - a celebration. You feel as though not only was someone you love taken from you, but your whole celebration - the moment - was taken.
You don't know how to feel, how to act, what to do, or even how to be. I hear your questions, I hear your anger, your joy, your sorrow. There are times in life when we experience more than a single breath of experience. We can feel the celebratory experience while still experiencing the loss.
I hear you, How? there are no experts in the field of human experience. We are all simply practicing. Practicing how to be, how to feel, and even how to breath. So I do not have a simple answer. What I can share is its okay. Its okay to celebrate. Its okay to cry. Its okay to be angry. Its okay to love and be loved. Its okay.
Every moment of your experience is the right experience. Don't place expectations upon your
experience. Allow yourself to feel how you feel, be how you are, and experience how you experience.
I am extraordinarily proud of each of you. Proud of your accomplishments. Proud of your journey. Excited to see where your path will take you. And I will be there to celebrate with you as you walk across the stage and take that diploma in your hand. Taking a deep breath in full of celebratory accomplishment. Focus simply on that moment as you stand there.
And I will be there when you cross the threshold to a funeral. To be there to experience with you the grief and tears. Taking a deep breath in full of love, being loved, and saying goodbye to a love. Focus simply on that moment as you stand there.
Yes there are a multitude of lessons here. Yes there are a multitude of words you do not want to hear at the moment that will be shared with you. Yes there are moments you will feel as though it isn't fair. In the end they are all simply moments. Moments for you to experience how you will experience them.


